The German wedding ceremony is part 2 of a 4 part series on German Weddings. All German weddings must first begin with a civil ceremony at the town hall. This is usually followed by a German wedding ceremony in the church in which the bride wears a traditional white dress and the groom a tux or nice suit, very similar to weddings in North America. However, when the wedding rings are exchanged, most Germans wear their wedding bands on their third finger on their right hand, instead of their left hand. We’ve decided that J.P. will wear his wedding band on his right hand, while I’ll wear mine on my left hand, a blending of Canadian and German customs.
Unlike weddings in North America, German weddings have no attendants so no need to worry about who to choose for brides maids or groomsmen. At German weddings, the bride and groom each have a witness, but they do not stand up with them in the German wedding ceremony. This explains why when I kept asking J.P. who was going to be his best man he got a confused look on his face. Our Canadian-German wedding will be held in Canada, but we have decided to do this the German way and forgo attendants. For the record, he is going to ask his mom to be his witness….awwww :).
|The German couple of a wedding we recently attended arrived together in this car|
Another big difference between German weddings and North American weddings is that in German weddings the couple usually arrives together and walks down the aisle together. I explained to J.P. that in North America it was considered bad luck for the bride and groom to see each other before the wedding and that we would be sleeping in different rooms the night before. He thought this was the silliest thing he had ever heard and can’t believe that I am serious, but I am. This is one North American wedding custom I plan to follow.
Similar to weddings in North America, there are flower girls at German weddings and they are the show stealers no matter where they are. At a wedding I attended in Germany, one of the adorable flower girls dropped her basket of rose petals and was so distraught she couldn’t continue her duties. So cute, although I did feel bad for her.
|The happy couple with the fallen flower girl at their feet.|
Another German wedding custom, that occurs days before the German wedding, is for guests to bring old dishes to break for good luck. Then the bride and groom clean up the dishes. J.P. has been at weddings where guests showed up with a truckload of dishes! Although this sounds interesting, I think I would rather just be an observer and not actually have to clean up all those dishes. J.P. and I have decided not to include this in our Canadian-German wedding due to the logistics involved.
|Breaking dishes is a popular way to wish the bride and groom good luck at German weddings|
One German wedding custom, unfamiliar to most North Americans, that we will including is the log sawing. Immediately after the ceremony, the couple has to saw a log in half working together with one saw. This symbolizes that working together can accomplish difficult tasks and is to serve as a reminder when the couple faces challenges in the future. This is a Bavarian wedding custom and one that J.P. is not very familiar with (not coming from Bavaria), but one that we think would be fun to include.
|Log sawing is popular at German weddings since it demonstrates the importance of working together|
What other German wedding traditions do you know of or what has been your experience attending a German wedding?